While meaningful relationships are a wonderful benefit when you live less, don't forget to spend time alone. We often define ourselves in terms of our relationships to others.
- her mom
- his wife
- her daughter
- his boss
- her friend
When you are quiet with your thoughts, you can more clearly identify what you need, what you want and what is most important to you. Both in the moment you are alone and when you re-join society.
When you are alone, you take away all of the time and energy you spend reacting to other people.
A few months ago I ate lunch alone outside on a cool, sunny day in New Orleans.
While I didn't have a lunch companion, I did have the clarity and attention to enjoy...
- the sun warming my chilled body
- the bubbles of champagne tickling the roof of my mouth
- the reflection of greenery in my silverware
- the chill of the wind on the exposed skin between my scarf and my shirt
- when I felt full
This is not to say it's not wonderful and amazing to spend time with people you love, but spending time alone will help you better engage in meaningful relationships. If you don't have the luxury of a few hours alone, even 10 minutes sitting in silence will give you a chance to think about how you feel and who you are.
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