You hit a pothole. Or a speed bump. Or whatever makes you slow down and realize you've been on autopilot with one of your kids and it's not working anymore.
You know the kid I'm talking about? He's the one that rarely gives you trouble. He's agreeable, helpful and the reason you've patted yourself on the back now and again thinking you've got this parenting thing figured out, at least for this kid. He gets good grades without effort. He seems to succeed at most things he tries and, if he doesn't, he picks himself up, dusts himself off and gets on with life without any drama.
Didn't get chosen to be on the modified soccer team? That's okay, mom. Now I can spend more time practicing drums.
That's been his attitude about most everything.
Let's put it in reverse here for a minute. Gets good grades without effort? Yup. That's been him. Always. He's got a memory like a steel trap. That is, he did until the work load got a little heavier, the extra-curricular schedule got a little busier and the locker got quite a bit messier. Now, he's missing homework assignments and losing things in his locker. It's become vividly apparent that the kid, who used to remember every minute detail, is sadly disorganized. As his science teacher says, "his disorganization has caught up with him".
Before I turned myself in for careless
In the meantime, I'm putting some tips from Williams into practice. Here's what we're doing:
- I had my son find his agenda. He hasn't written one word in it for the whole school year. As of last week, he's using it daily to keep track of assignments and his activity schedule.
- Once a week, the locker will be cleaned. One of his teachers is going to help him sort and organize his papers.
- Every Sunday, my husband, my son and I will sit down at the kitchen table and review the upcoming weekly schedule, including school assignments for the week.
- My son is going to set one or two easily attainable goals for the week. This week's goals are to turn all assignments in on time and practice more for band.
- Every night, he's to give me a run down of what was done in each class that day and what the next day's assignments are.